Are you a People Pleaser?

People Pleaser Poison!!

If you just set out to be liked, you will be prepared to compromise on anything at any time - and you would achieve nothing.

-Margaret Thatcher

Are You a People Pleaser? I have been one for as long as I can remember. I am not sure when it started or why. Maybe it was my personality bent, or maybe childhood abuse. But for whatever reason it has been a thorn in my flesh. It has plagued me and crippled me for my whole life.

Recently I have been trying to figure out what it was that was my road block in life. I have thought of numerous things but nothing felt quite right. Was it fear of failure? No. Fear of criticism? Maybe, but still not quite right.

Then, yesterday my sponsor in Empower Network, Sam Crowley of Every Day is Saturday posted the above quote on his Facebook page. As soon as I read it I knew it was talking to me. I finally pinpointed what has kept me dead in the water. I am a people pleaser!!

I finally know what I have to work on and what I have to overcome. I can no longer be a people pleaser!!! 

Knowing I am a People Pleaser is Not Enough 

 

Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do.

~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe 

Knowing that I am a people pleaser is not enough. I must do something about it. As I have thought about it since yesterday, I have realized being a people pleaser has caused me to make bad “go along with the flow” decisions. My being a people pleaser had caused a lot of people to get hurt throughout my life.

If you want to know how sick being a people pleaser is – I went into a profession I didn’t like to please my mother. I married someone I didn’t love to please a religious leader. I have never, but once, had a back bone to stand for what I felt I wanted or needed to do.

It is Time to Break the People Pleaser Habit

"The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing."

—Walt Disney:American film producer, director, animator, entrepreneur, and philanthropist 

Being a people pleaser is going to be a hard habit to break! This is something I have been for 63 years. This feels like an addiction. But I know if I don’t break this habit I am dead in the water.

It takes 21 days to break a habit. This is a deep seeded habit. Today is April 9, 2013. For the next 21 days (the rest of the month) or longer, I am going to keep this at the front of my thinking. I am going to be conscious of the decisions I make and the things I say, and the actions I do. If I fall back into being a people pleaser, I will start the 21 days again, until I can go 21 days without slipping backward.

My desire is to have a thriving Empower Network Business. I know that being a people pleaser will destroy that goal. I can’t succeed at Empower Network or really, anything in life as long as I try to stay on neutral people pleaser ground.

Today is the 1st day of the rest of my Life

Today is the 1^st day of the rest of my life. I WILL be a person who takes a stand. I WILL be a person who says what she means and means what she says. I WILL step out of the shadows and do the actions that a non people pleaser would do. I WILL succeed!!!!

If you struggle with being a people pleaser, you are not alone. Do you want to break the habit? If so, leave me a comment and we can go through this struggle together.

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Have an awesome non people pleasing day,
Charyl aka Mom8isme    

Television Produces Negative Thinking

Stinkin’ Thinkin’ from Television

 

 

Yesterday I wrote a blog about Philippians 4:8 and the way we think. I decided I wasn’t quite finished with the topic yet. There is so much “stinkin thinkin” going on around us all the time. I’m sure we don’t even hear it most of the time because we are so used to it. If you have a television you hear it every hour of every day.

I have heard for years that a person should TURN OFF the television, radio, newspaper, stock reports, AOL pop up's, video games, listening to negative people and saying ANYTHING negative about anyone. Small minded people talk ABOUT people while brilliant people talk ABOUT thoughts.

Everytime YOU let people "Rent" space in your head for any reason YOU are giving them Your Power.....

We Pulled the Plug on Television

2 ½ years ago Dennis and I pulled the plug on cable television. It was a hard decision to make but a good one. Dennis especially went through withdrawals. I asked him a couple months ago right around Super Bowl Sunday if he wanted to reconnect the television but he told me emphatically “NO”. The only time of the year he wishes we had television is Super Bowl Sunday and we just figure out somewhere to get ourselves invited to.

Have we missed it? Not really. We have Netflix so if we want to watch something we find a movie on there or rent a movie. In reality I probably only average 1 movie a month and no regular television at all.

It really helps to not have the news on the television blaring. Or to have the option to sit and blankly stare at some “stupid” reality show or sitcom. Don’t get me wrong, there are some cool shows on television. If I want to all I have to do is find them on line. I don’t choose to, but I always know I have the option if that is something I want to do.

Dave Branon on Television

I came across this blurb below yesterday when I was looking up information on Philippians 4:8. Dave Branon is an editor for Discovery House Publishers and Radio Bible Class Ministries and is a popular contributor to Our Daily Bread. This is what Dave says about television and our thinking:

The image on the television screen captures our attention and we sit down to watch. As we flip from channel to channel, is there any connection between what we decide to watch and what is in our heart? Does our faith in Christ have anything at all to do with our television choices?

In a world of falling standards, we must think through this question: How does our relationship with Christ affect our television viewing habits?

One secular writer speaking about today's television programs said, "The notion of indecency has become obsolete." He is suggesting that a standard has been pushed aside. What is that standard? I believe it's the moral standard found in biblical teaching.

Most television productions are not governed by the guidelines God wants us to follow. The Bible tells us, "Whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things" (Philippians 4:8). It's hard to do that when we're being bombarded by the ungodly images presented on television.

Let's ask God to help us make godly choices in what we watch on television. —Dave Branon

Next Step in Eliminating the Negative

Now that Dennis and I have the television under control. It is time to eliminate the news feeds we get in our email and on facebook. Talk about negative! It seems like the news feeds come up with the worst of the worst to share. How can I focus on the positive if I allow all that “garbage” to take up residence in my subconscious? Definitely can’t.

Law of Attraction comes into play – what we think about comes about. I desire positive productive events in my life. Consequently the negative must be turned off!!!

I would love to hear your comments on the subject of stinkin’ thinkin’ and television. Be sure to leave them in the section below.

Have a wonderful positive day. Turn off the television and enjoy.
Charyl aka Mom8isme
 

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April Fool’s Day History

 

 

April Fools gone past, and you’re the biggest fool at last.

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With the celebration of April Fool’s Day this week I got to thinking about the history of the Day. I had no clue, so I started my google search. I thought since I had no clue how the day got started, maybe there were others who were curious too.

April Fool’s Day - The Beginning

Infoplease.com stated:

Ancient cultures, including those of the Romans and Hindus, celebrated New Year's Day on or around April 1. It closely follows the vernal equinox (March 20th or March 21st.) In medieval times, much of Europe celebrated March 25, the Feast of Annunciation, as the beginning of the new year.

In 1582, Pope Gregory XIII ordered a new calendar (the Gregorian Calendar) to replace the old Julian Calendar. The new calendar called for New Year's Day to be celebrated Jan. 1. That year, France adopted the reformed calendar and shifted New Year's day to Jan. 1.

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April Fool’s Day Begins in Earnest

April-fools.us continues to tell us that:

Communication traveled slowly in those days and some people were only informed of the change several years later. Still others, who were more rebellious refused to acknowledge the change and continued to celebrate on the last day of the former celebration, April 1.

These people were labeled "fools" by the general populace, were subject to ridicule and sent on "fool errands," sent invitations to nonexistent parties and had other practical jokes played upon them. The butts of these pranks became known as a "poisson d'avril" or "April fish" because a young naive fish is easily caught. In addition, one common practice was to hook a paper fish on the back of someone as a joke.

This harassment evolved over time and a custom of prank-playing continue on the first day of April. This tradition eventually spread elsewhere like to Britain and Scotland in the 18th century and was introduced to the American colonies by the English and the French. Because of this spread to other countries, April Fool's Day has taken on an international flavor with each country celebrating the holiday in its own way. For the entire article click here.

My Share of April Fool’s Day Jokes

My mom told the story of an April Fool’s Day joke that turned upside down for her. Back when she was in grammar school around 1920 she and a lot of her classmates decided to write April Fool’s Day on their spelling test and turn it in without the spelling words written. Come to find out she was the only one who really did it. Everyone else chickened out. She alone got a big fat “F” for the test. She didn’t think it was very funny after that.

I was never very good at playing April Fool’s Day jokes on people. My kids were tho. I don’t think I had many April Fool’s Days that went by without someone doing something. I had my share of “Mom, I’m pregnant” or “Mom, I am flunking out of school” shared with me. I am sure they did more interesting jokes on their siblings and friends but I was never privy to those. I might not have seen the humor in them.

Well Known April Fool’s Day Pranks

Urbanlegends.about.com goes on to tell us about some of the well known April Fool’s Day pranks:

One of the great media hoaxes of all time was perpetrated on April 1, 1957 by the BBC, which reported on its news program Panorama that Switzerland was experiencing a bumper spaghetti harvest that year thanks to favorable weather and the elimination of the dread "spaghetti weevil." Staged video footage showing happy peasants plucking strands of pasta from tall trees was so convincing that many viewers actually called the network to ask how they could grow their own.

Some of the best-known pranks in recent years were mounted by advertising agencies. In 1996, Taco Bell ran a full-page ad in the New York Times announcing it had purchased the Liberty Bell and would rename it the "Taco Liberty Bell."

Burger King pulled off a similar prank in 1998, announcing the rollout of its "Left-Handed Whopper" supposedly designed so that condiments would drip from the right side of the burger rather than the left.

On the Internet hoaxes have become such standard fare that April Fools' Day is barely distinguishable from any other, though a few notable pranks stand out and tend to be reposted year after year — e.g., the 1996 announcement that every computer connected to the World Wide Web must be turned off for Internet Cleaning Day, a 24-hour period during which useless "flotsam and jetsam" are flushed from the system.

For the rest of the Urbanlegends article click here.

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I really enjoy researching and sharing the history of some of the holidays. I love to learn and I love to blog and share. I sure hope you enjoyed learning about the origin of April Fool’s Day.

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Charyl aka Mom8isme

PASSION Step One

Renew the Passion

"This is a new year. A new beginning. And things will change."

Taylor Swift

 

"Every man should be born again on the first day of January. Start with a fresh page."
- Henry Ward Beecher

Well, I am on a MISSION!!  I decided that I need passion in my life.  I am definitely in need of passion.  I have been flat lined for way to long.  I have not had a reason to get up in the morning or a reason to stay up late in the evening.  If my life was a color it would be an ugly shade of grey.  I want something pretty. I want my life to be colorful and beautiful, not drab and uninviting.  I want to be passionate and fired up for both Jesus, and for Dennis’s and my new venture, Empower Network.  I want to be so excited that I stay up late and get up early just to study and learn more.  I want my life to be something that other people want.  Right now I am sure people would look and say – ok, but no thank you.  I can be miserable without what you have.

 

So, in studying how to develop passion I found out that passion is like a muscle, it grows and develops when it is used and pushed just that little bit outside of its comfort zone.  If a muscle is not used then it atrophies, meaning that it wastes away.  Passion is no different; if you don’t experience it for a while then it will be harder and harder to access it in the future.

 

I am so far removed from passion that my passion muscle is barely hanging on.  I am sure it is there, but it has dwindled down to almost nothing.  So, how do I get it back functioning?  Well, I have to get my passion muscle out and start giving it a work out.  Kind of like physical fitness.  If you are a couch potato and totally out of shape, in order to get back in shape you have to start small and rebuild you muscles a bit at a time.  You go to the gym every day and work bit by bit and one day you realize you aren’t the couch potato you used to be.  So, that is what I need to do with my passion muscle.

 

I have always heard “Fake it until you make it”.  So, that is exactly what I am going to do.  I am going to start this journey by pretending to be excited, fired up and passionate.  I read that the more you pretend the more you are likely to be able to actually feel it.  I am going to work that muscle by pretending until one day I wake up and realize that I am no longer pretending.  And realize that I am totally, for real, fired up and passionate and sold out for both Jesus and Empower Network.  Can’t wait!!!!

 

So, until next time I am going to be working on step one of my Passion Plan.  Pretend until it becomes real.

 

I am so excited!  I have a plan!!!

 

Have a fantastic day and work your Passion Muscle,

Charyl aka mom8isme

How to FAIL as a Leader

How to FAIL as a Leader Part 1

Last night I wrote about Leadership and the 11 positive attributes of being a good leader. In reading Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill , he really lays it on the line what the qualities of a good and bad leader are. I know both types and have had both as bosses. Needless to say the ones who have the positive characteristics are much easier to work for and to be around. I personally don’t see why someone would choose be a negative leader unless they are just a negative, selfish person who is unhappy with the world. It doesn’t take any more energy to be positive than negative.

BUT if you really wanted to fail as a leader, Napoleon tells you how. He lists the 10 major causes of failure as a leader. Today I will cover the first 5 of them.

1. Inability to organize details. A successful leader is organized and capable of guiding the followers in every aspect of the project. He knows to the nth degree what needs to be done in order for the project to succeed. If you can’t organize or keep all the details of a project straight than how can you expect your followers to know what to accomplish. It would be like the blind leading the blind, hoping it somehow all works out. I have had bosses delegate yet have no clue what the end product looks like. I have also known bosses who can’t keep the day to day details of the business running smooth because they themselves aren’t organized enough to make sure B follows A.

2. Unwillingness to render humble service. A good leader does not mind getting down and dirty with the followers. A good leader never expects his followers to do something that he himself wouldn’t be willing to do. The scriptures say “The greatest among you shall be servant to all.” It is sad when you know that your boss feels something is beneath them yet they expect you to do it with a smile.

3. Expectation of pay for what they “know” instead of what they do with that which they know. The world does not pay people for their knowledge. There are a lot of people with a tremendous amount of knowledge doing nothing with their lives. A person has to take that knowledge, formulate it into a plan and do something with it before it becomes profitable. A person shouldn’t expect to just sit around in an office and just think with no production, and still get paid a leaders salary.

4. Fear of competition from followers. The leader who worries and frets that one of his underlings will come and take over and boot him out of a job will one day find his fears coming true. A leader needs to be secure in his leadership abilities, in his ability to motivate people to follow and do that which need to be done. Napoleon says “It’s an eternal truth that men receive more pay for their ability to get others to perform, than they could possibly earn by their own efforts.” If you are fretting about a hostile takeover then maybe you need to check your skills and see if you are truly the leader you think you are.

5. Lack of imagination. I wrote a few days ago about imagination. There is a true lack of creative imagination in today’s society. We have been trained not to freely think. But without imagination how can a leader fix a crisis or head off an emergency. A leader needs to be able to think outside the box. Otherwise you are going to be doing the same ole thing and getting the same ole results, and nothing changes.

My guess is that if you are reading this you just might want to be your own boss and leader. You are tired of being the follower and want to venture off and be the leader. I know that is the way I am. I am tired of having leaders who don’t care. Leaders who just want me to do the dirty work and get down and dirty with the clients. I don’t mind doing the dirty work. I don’t mind working hard. BUT I want to be my own boss. I want to be the one fine tuning the leadership skills. I want to be the one calling the shots. So, if this sounds like you. Tired of the 9 – 5 and negative bosses. Then you need to check out Empower Network. You need to take control of your life and be your own boss. Don’t let another day go by. You are already a day late.

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Have a good one,
Charyl aka mom8isme
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Leadership

Leadership

Have you ever wanted to be a good leader? It is really hard to judge if you are a good one or not. In my life and I am sure in yours you have had good and bad bosses/leaders in your life. I am sure both the good and the bad think they are awesome leaders. So how do you really know?

Napoleon Hill in Think and Grow Rich gives some good guide lines. As I was reading them this afternoon it was really easy to think of some people who fit the descriptions to a tee. If you are like me you enjoy working for and being around the “good” leader/ bosses and you can’t wait to find a new job when you have one of those who just don’t have the good leadership traits down.

Napoleon gives 11 attributes of good leadership.

1st is Unwavering courage based upon knowledge of self and one’s occupation. A good leader has awesome self confidence and courage. When a leader/boss has the confidence & courage to step up to the plate it makes it easy for the followers to follow. I know for me it makes a major difference when the leadership knows where they are going and have the courage and confidence to lead the way. I know I personally don’t want to follow someone who has no clue where they are headed.

2nd is Self Control. Bottom line is that if someone can’t control themselves, how can they even think about controlling or leading someone else?

3rd – A keen sense of Justice. Fairness and justice are so important for a leader to have. If you don’t feel that fairness, it is hard to get behind someone and follow. It would be hard to let your guard down and trust them enough to follow. I know I wouldn’t.

4th is Definiteness of Decision. I have had leader/bosses who change direction with the weather. You never know if the latest project is on or off because things change so often. It makes it hard to get behind someone or something when you aren’t sure it will be moving forward tomorrow. It makes me lose respect for someone who can’t hold fast to plans and decisions. Feels like they are flapping in the wind. NOT good.

5th - Definiteness of Plans. This one goes right along with #4. If you can’t make a definite decision than how can you have definite plans. And if you don’t have definite plans how can you accomplish anything. A successful leader must plan his work and work his plan. Reminds me of a person starting out on vacation and not having a clue which direction they are planning on traveling. They will never know when they get there that way.

6th is the habit of doing more than paid for. A leader should always be willing to do more than his followers. I have had bosses who literally do nothing. They crack the whip but don’t feel like they have pull their weight at all.

7th is a pleasing personality. A pleasing personality is something everyone should strive for. Who want to follow a grumpy butt. Leadership depends on respect and who can respect someone without a pleasing personality. Leaders and followers alike should be working on this one.

8th – Sympathy and understanding. A quality leader should have compassion for their followers and strive to understand their lives and struggles.

9th – Mastery of Detail. A leader needs to understand all the plans to the last detail. If they don’t know the details then how can they encourage and support the followers when they come upon a problem. Leaders need to understand things down to the most finite detail. Not just the big picture.

10th is Willingness to Assume Full Responsibility. Napoleon says “A successful leader must be willing to assume responsibility for the mistakes and shortcomings of his followers.” The leader is the buck stops here person.

11th is Cooperation. Leadership calls for power and power calls for cooperation.

As I go over all 11 of these characteristics, I know leaders who have them all and some who have none of them. As I strive to become a leader in Empower Network. I plan to keep these attributes at the forefront of my thinking. As I start leading, I can be successful and a good leader or I can fall on my face and be a failure. My goal is to be a total success.

If you are interested in learning about Empower Network. Just click on the link to the side and I will be glad to help you learn all you need to know.

Until next time,
Have the best day ever!!!
Charyl aka mom8isme

Imagination Part 2

Imagination Part 2

Imagination is such an important part of our being. Like I said yesterday we are all born with a healthy dose of imagination but over the years so much of it is squashed. In school we learn to conform to the norm and follow all the rules and answer all the questions by rote. Anything that has to do with creativity or imagination is deemed an elective and not worthy of being considered a “real” class. Hence, we get in the habit of not thinking. When was the last time you let your imagination go wild and thought outside the box. I know for me it has been forever. I don’t even know if I can allow myself “free think”. I have been so conditioned to fit in and attempt to have the right answer. I know my creative imagination is still there but it has shrunk to the point it isn’t able to be used. Napoleon says though that “It can be revived and made alert through use”, which is good to know, that’s for sure.

One of the most basic truths in Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill is that “ideas can be transmuted into cash through the power of definite purpose, plus definite plans.” Hard work alone just isn’t enough. It would be awesome if it was but it isn’t. There are millions of people working as hard as they can every day but just barely making ends meet, if at all. Napoleon says “Riches come, if they come at all, in response to definite demands, based upon the application of definite principles, and not by chance or luck.”

So the key to making the whole thing work is to start with an idea. Once you have the creative idea and nurture and grow it until it becomes a burning passion. After you have grown that idea into a passion you need to formulate it all into a definite plan with a definite purpose. Once you have the idea, passion, plan and purpose all in logical order and down on paper you are set to implement it, and are good to go.

For me my burning passion is to have a thriving internet business involving blogging. I have wanted to make money by blogging for years. Actually my burning desire has been to be in a position to travel, take pixs and write, and the writing has been narrowed down to blogging over the last couple years. I love to travel and see new places. I love to take pictures, and if I could have had a do over in life I would have become a photographer instead of an accountant.  AND write, write, write. Am I good at writing? Who knows, but I enjoy it a lot. I have written in my journal since I was in 6th grade. Same time I started having a passion for taking pictures. Go figure. So, this is my passion. Been my passion for almost as long as I can remember, and I plan to make my passion a reality in 2013.

The cool thing is that Empower Network is a blogging platform. One of the requirements for promoting Empower Network is to blog every day. One of the goals that I have set for 2013 has been to become an excellent blogger. I want to learn everything I can about blogging. What to blog, how to blog, how to promote my blog, any and everything to do with blogging. By this time next year I plan to know, really know how to blog. And Empower Network – pays to blog and promote their site. Sounds like a plan to me.

My guess is that you probably have a dream, a passion. Probably not mine but a burning one just the same. So, if you want to make your desire a reality, then Empower Network is the tool for you. It works, so just click on the link and get started. I promise you won’t be disappointed.

Until next time. Have a fantastic day.
Charyl aka mom8isme

Specialized Knowledge

Specialized Knowledge

The 4th Step toward Riches

I am still making my way through Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. I am on the 5th chapter titled Specialized Knowledge. Napoleon says this is the 4th step in ones road towards riches. Just to remind you the:

1st step is Desire – The starting point of all achievement.
2nd – Faith – Visualization of, and belief in attainment of desire.
3rd – Autosuggestion – The medium for influencing the subconscious mind.
And now we are on the 4th Step – Specialized Knowledge – Personal Experiences or observations.

Napoleon says there are 2 types of knowledge, 1st is general knowledge. That is the most prevalent type. General knowledge is what you get in your regular education classes in public school or even your general education at the college level. The 2nd type is Specific Knowledge. This type is specialized, it has more power. It is focused on a specific topic and is more in depth than the general. I call it being laser focused.

Knowledge in and of itself will not attract money. It will only attract money if “it is organized, and intelligently directed, through practical plans of action, to the definite end of accumulation of money”. This is one of the problems most college students face. They go to college, work hard, earn good grades, get their diploma and end up flipping burgers at McDonalds. They had the false notion that the degree would bring money and it doesn’t.

I have always held the philosophy that college is a waste of money unless it is a means to an end. There are certain professions a person cannot attain unless they have a college degree, master, or higher. You can’t be a doctor, lawyer, school teacher, certified public accountant unless you have that piece of paper telling the world you have a specific specialize education. I personally have a degree in Accounting and I have passed the CPA exam. That would qualify me to work in a CPA firm and do Accounting if I so chose. I don’t, but I could. My daughter is a teacher, and that too required her to finish college and get her teaching certificate. BUT there are a lot of other professions that don’t require a college degree. A person could theoretically start at the bottom and work their way up. I am not saying not to go to college if you are of the mind set to, but if you are thinking it is your ticket to riches you will be terribly disappointed.

There are a lot of people who are going through life suffering from an “inferiority complex” because they are not men of education. The funny thing is that many of them are making tons of money. They know their field but don’t have that one piece of paper. It is really sad the way the world has placed so much value on something like a piece of paper.

Thomas Edison only had 3 months of formal schooling in his whole life and Henry Ford had less than a 6th grade education. Both of them excelled in their fields of expertise. Yet both of them had specific knowledge to help them accomplish what they were able to. Some of the richest people I know don’t have college degrees but have succeeded far beyond the norm.

I am an avid reader. I read a couple books a week. Not all are specific knowledge books but I am continually filling my mind with new material. Napoleon says that “the person who stops studying merely because he has finished school is forever hopelessly doomed to mediocrity, no matter what may be his calling. The way of success is the way of continuous pursuit of knowledge.”

This is one of the awesome things about Empower Network. They encourage daily learning. They have 8 core commitments and 2 of them have to do with learning. One is to read something every day and the other is to listen to a motivational audio. I love to learn. I can’t get enough. I love the wisdom and knowledge others in Empower Network impart to everyone. If you are interested in being a better person, I highly suggest continuous learning. One of the best ways I know of is to tap into all that Empower Network has to offer. Just click on the link and see all that they have to offer. I am sure you will be pleased.

Me, I am off to do some more reading.
Until next time,
Chow,
Charyl aka mom8isme
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Autosuggestion

Auto Suggestion

The Medium for influencing the Subconscious Mind

In reading Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill I have once again realized just how important my thoughts are. In his 3rd Chapter on Autosuggestion, Napoleon states that autosuggestion is plain and simple self-suggestion, another word for self talk.

If you are like me I engage in self talk all day long. Some of the self talk is positive and some of it isn’t. This self talk is what is totally influencing my life. Whatever is the dominating thought at the moment – that is what is being fed into my subconscious mind. My subconscious mind isn’t picky; it will accept the negative just as easily as the positive. Napoleon uses the idea of the mind being like a garden. Imagine a garden overrun with unsightly weeds. That is your subconscious mind being feed by negative thoughts. Now think about a garden filled with beautiful spring flowers, flowers of every color and vibrant with life. Visualize them swaying in the afternoon breeze and the sun shining down on you and the garden. That's the subconscious mind being feed by positive thoughts. It is our choice as to what we will think about. When you reflect on the past, do you choose to think of hurt and regret or do you remember the good times, the laughter, and the positive aspects of life. Every moment of every day is a choice. Do I want weeds or flowers? It is a simple choice but so, so hard to do.

Another aspect that Napoleon mentions repeatedly is that our thoughts need to be emotionalized with feeling. Just reading or writing something is never enough. I guess our subconscious mind doesn’t like a bland diet. He states that “You will get no appreciable results until you learn to reach your subconscious mind with thoughts or spoken words which have been well emotionalized with belief.” This makes sense to me. In the past when I have tried visualization and writing my desires, etc I just did the writing or thinking in a neutral sort of way. I never really felt a passion about anything I was writing or desiring. I guess I was basically just going through the motions. Napoleon says we need to really concentrate on our desire. We need to fix all our attention on the desire with our eyes closed. Concentrate until we can actually see the physical appearance of the object of our desire. We should do this at least once a day. This is something I have not done in the past. But you can be assured it will be something I plan to do from now on. I do have a burning desire, a passion, a definite chief aim/purpose in life. I can see it, feel it, taste it and touch it in my mind. I need to concentrate on it at least once every day with all the passion I can muster.

Do you have a passion, something you want to have, do or be? Is this something you want so bad you can hardly stand it. If so, autosuggestion might be a method you should use to help achieve it. One of the tools I am using to help achieve my dream/desire is Empower Network. Empower Network is helping LOTS of people achieve their dreams, and they are achieving them in record time. If you are really serious about success, click on the link and check it out. I am sure you will be pleased with what you learn.

Have a fantastic day.
Adios until next time,
Charyl aka Mom8isme
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Faith

Faith allows things to happen. It is the power that comes from

a fearless heart. And when a fearless heart believes, miracles

happen.

 

I am still reading Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. It is an awesome book with so many words of wisdom. Seems like I am learning something new on every page. The 3rd chapter is called Faith. So much good information.

I hadn’t thought that much about “Faith” before except in the Spiritual realm. When I think of faith I think of the scripture Hebrews 11:1 “Faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things unseen. “ I had not transferred “faith” into the everyday world. But it is true for day to day living, too. If you don’t have faith you really have nothing. Napoleon says “A mind dominated by positive emotions, becomes a favorable abode for the state of mind known as faith. A mind so dominated may, at will, give the subconscious mind instructions, which it will accept and act upon immediately."

Our subconscious mind obeys instructions at will. If we think negative thoughts our subconscious mind will think that is what we want to happen. I remember listening to Michael Clouse explain it years ago. He basically said our thoughts and words are like the captain of a ship and our subconscious mind is like the man down in the ship carrying out the instructions. The man down below doesn’t hear the words “not” or “don’t”, or anything like that. If I were to say “I don’t want to run out of money”. All he hears is “Run out of money”. And basically says “OK”. I say “I don’t want to run out of gas.” And he hears “Run out of gas”. “OK”. He just carries out the instructions. He doesn’t analyze it or think twice about it. He just makes it happen. Needless to say, we are our own worst enemies by thinking negative thoughts. THIS is why so often our worse fears come true. We literally think our way poor or sick or….. Consequently, our thoughts and words are extremely important. This is where Napoleon comes up with the Think and Grow Rich. We are what we think about. Poor or rich, sick or well, fat or thin, etc.

Needless to say, we need to continuously have positive thoughts. We need to have faith in the belief that we can succeed in whatever we are striving for. We need to, as the Bible says in 2 Corinthians 10:5, “Take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ.” We cannot have any negative, unproductive thoughts or the little guy down in our subconscious mind will have a hay day and make it happen. Scary thought. I want to only have positive productive thoughts and experiences in my life. I want to have faith in the positive.

Napoleon has a poem in his book. He doesn’t list the author, but it is so good, I can’t pass up sharing it here.

 

If you think you are beaten, you are,

If you think you dare not, you don’t.

If you like to win, but think you can’t,
It is almost certain you won’t.

If you think you’ll lose, you’re lost

For out of the world we find,

Success begins with a fellow’s will –

It’s all in the state of mind.

If you think you are outclassed, you are,

You’ve got to think high to rise,

You’ve got to be sure of yourself before

You can ever win a prize.

Life’s battles don’t always go

To the stronger or faster man,

But soon or late the man who wins

Is the man WHO THINKS HE CAN!

 

Do you think you can? I do. I truly believe I am and will be successful. I truly believe that I have found the way to success. I truly believe Empower Network and blogging daily will be the means for me to have the desires of my heart.

I would love for you to check out Empower Network. People are being super successful and so can you. I would love to have you join me on this awesome journey. Just click on the link and check it out. You won’t be sorry.

Until next time. Be sure and think positive thoughts and have faith.

Charyl aka Mom8isme
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SELF-CONFIDENCE FORMULA

Your chances of success in any undertaking can always be measured by your belief in yourself!!

Robert Collier

 

I was reading in Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. Chapter 3 is entitled Faith. Faith is so important in all that we do. If we don't have "faith" we don't have anything. If we don't have faith that we can do something, there is a pretty good chance we won't be able to do it.

 

The key to having Faith in ourselves in having positive Self Confidence. As I am working on a daily basis with people in my J-O-B I have noticed that having a negative self image and lack of self confidence is everywhere. I personally want to have a positive self image and buckets of self confidence. Truth be told I probably need a good shot of self confidence. Napoleon gave an awesome formula for Self-Confidence. Since needing more self-confidence seems to affect so many people I am going to write out Napoleon's formula. Think I will try it and see what happens. You might want to give it a shot too.

 

SELF-CONFIDENCE FORMULA

 

1. I know that I have the ability to achieve the object of my Definite Purpose in life, therefore, I DEMAND of myself persistent, continuous action toward its attainment, and I here and now promise to render such action.

 

2. I realize the dominating thoughts of my mind will eventually reproduce themselves in outward, physical action, and gradually transform themselves into physical reality, therefore, I will concentrate my thoughts for 30 minutes daily, upon the task of thinking of the person I intend to become, thereby creating in my mind a clear mental picture of that person.

 

3. I know through the principle of auto-suggestion, any desire that I persistently hold in my mind will eventually seek expression through some practical means of attaining the object back of it, therefore, I will devote 10 minutes daily to demanding of myself the development of SELF-CONFIDENCE.

 

4. I have clearly written down a description of my DEFINITE CHIEF AIM in life, and I will never stop trying, until I shall have developed sufficient self-confidence for its attainment.

 

5. I fully realize that no wealth or position can long endure, unless built upon truth and justice, therefore, I will engage in no transaction which does not benefit all whom it affects. I will succeed by attracting to myself the forces I wish to use, and the cooperation of other people. I will induce others to serve me, because of my willingness to serve others. I will eliminate hatred, envy, jealousy, selfishness, and cynicism, by developing love for all humanity, because I know that a negative attitude towards others can never bring me success. I will cause others to believe in me, because I will believe in them and in myself.

 

I will sign my name to this formula, commit it to memory, and repeat it aloud once a day, with full FAITH that it will gradually influence my THOUGHTS and ACTIONS so that I will become a self-reliant, and successful person.

 

So, do you think this will help? I sure do. This is something I plan to commit to now. I want to be successful. I want my Definite Chief Aim in Life to be a reality. I am so excited to be involved with Empower Network. Empower Network is my ticket to success and to the fulfillment of my Burning Desire. Success is just around the corner.

 

Are you looking for success? Do you have a Burning Desire you wish to fulfill? Empower Network just might be your ticket to success too. Why don't you try it? Just check it out. You won't be sorry.

 

Until next time,

Charyl aka mom8isme

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Desire into Gold

The Size of your success is measured by the strength of your desire; the size of your dream; and how you handle disappointment along the way.

Robert Kiyosaki

 

I am continuing to read Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. Chapter 2 on Desire is truly amazing. Napoleon has a section on 6 Ways to Turn Desire into Gold. OK, that is something I want to learn and make part of my life. I want Gold/Riches. Don't you??

The 6 Steps are:
1. Fix in your mind the exact amount of money you desire. Be definite as to the amount.

2. Determine exactly what you intend to give in return for the money you desire.
3. Establish a definite date when you intend to possess the money you desire.
4. Create a definite plan for carrying out your desire and begin at once, whether you are ready or not to put this plan into action.
5. Write out a clear, concise statement of the amount of money you intend to acquire, name the time limit for its acquisition, state what you intend to give in return for the money, and describe clearly the plan through which you intend to accumulate it.
6. Read your written statement aloud, twice daily, once just before retiring at night, and once after arising in the morning. As you read - see and feel and believe yourself already in possession of the money.

I really like this plan. I plan to do this soon, if not before. I was listening to Earl Nightingale, The Strangest Secret Ever Told tonight. He was saying basically the same thing. Both men are saying we are what we think. If we want to be a success we need to think and feel we are successful. I need to have a desire for success so entrenched in my thinking that I am acting as if I am already successful. I need to think, feel and do as if I have already arrived.

I always felt I needed to arrive before I acted successful. I felt I was lying to the world if I wasn't 100% transparent as to who I am at the moment. But if I am truly believing, than I need to act as if my desire for financial success has already come true. Desire = Reality. Reminds me of what the Bible says about having the faith of a child. Children believe just because. I have a friend on facebook that I have known for quite a while. She told the story today about a conversation she had with her daughter. "Earlier, I told Brooke we needed some rain and her response was: "Well I will just ask Jesus for some." A bit ago, I told her to come look we were getting a little rain. Her response this time: Well, yes, I asked Jesus for it you silly!" Isn't that awesome. To desire and believe like it had already happened. She wasn't surprised at all. THAT is what I want my thinking to be like.

The neat thing is that for the 1st time in a long time I have a desire and a belief that it is all possible. With Empower Network it is all possible. If I do all the steps Napoleon says and keep my focus on success, there is no way to not succeed. I am on the adventure of a life time. Sure hope you choose to come along for the ride. If you are interested, just click on Empower Network and send me your email. You will not be sorry. You don't want the opportunity to pass you up.

Until tomorrow,
Charyl aka Mom8isme
Empower Network

Desire

Desire is the starting point of all achievement, not a hope, not a wish, but a keen pulsating desire which transcends everything.

Napoleon Hill

Last night I read Chapter 2 of Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. Chapter 2 is titled Desire. Napoleon says “Desire is the starting point of all achievement”. If a person does not have a burning desire they won’t stay the course.

I think, for me, in the past, I had more of a wishing type hope that I would succeed. I never really thought I would. Never truly believed I would. Although I loved some of the products I sold in other network marketing companies, I never could see myself successful. I could never see myself up on stage being one of the success stories. I have enjoyed J-O-Bs but I don’t think I have had a “burning desire”. Now I do!!! I have a burning desire to make this adventure with Empower Network succeed. I have a burning desire to get my life back. Yes, I want to retire from my job. Yes, I want to visit my kids and grandkids. Yes, I want to wake up in the morning and have choices. Bur I have to admit – my burning desire is to have the financial freedom to make those things a reality.
 

Last night when I was reading it was talking about burning your bridges so you couldn’t retreat. Napoleon said “Every person who wins in any undertaking must be willing to cut all sources of retreat. Only by doing so can one be sure of maintaining that state of mind known as a burning desire to win - essential to success.” This is what I want. I want to burn my bridges so I have to win. I don’t want to give myself an option. I don’t want an escape plan or a Plan B. It is Plan A – Empower Network – or nothing. I will make it work.

I would love to have you along for the ride. Wouldn’t it be awesome to have us both standing there looking back and seeing the path to success that we took. Looking back and seeing that the burning desire we both had carried us through.

If that is a journey you would like to take, click on the button and start your own adventure toward having your hopes, dreams and burning desire come true. Let’s enjoy the ride together.

Until next time, have a fantastic day.
Charyl aka mom8isme
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Education is the KEY

"Education is what remains after one has forgotten everything he learned in school"
Albert Einstein

I saw this quote today and got to thinking about education. I graduated from high school and then college years ago. My “formal” education was over at that point. For a while my learning stopped. OK, I learned things here and there. Who can help but learn some things when you have as many kids as I do. BUT, I wouldn’t consider it a type of learning that made me a better person or improved who I was. That is, until I got involved in network marketing. The 1st couple companies I got involved with – I totally sucked at. But they did encourage learning. Learning from some of the pros. I read books and listened to messages from people like Zig Ziglar, Brian Tracy, Michael Clouse and Chris Widener. I look back and realize that because of that “learning”, I am no longer the person I was before. I have grown and matured in ways I never would have without that form of learning. This has been a practice I have continued and totally benefited from.

Since getting involved with Empower Network, they have also encouraged reading daily. It is one of the 8 core commitments. Core Commitment #7: Read Daily “Leaders Are Readers”. Not something that will be hard because I have been pre-conditioned to do it.

Today I started reading Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill again for the 3rd or 4th time. This book always has something awesome to learn from it. Chapter 1 – Thoughts are Things really brought back how important my thought life is. My thoughts are so powerful they will either make or break me. If I truly believe 100% within my soul that I will succeed at something, and I don’t waver, my subconscious will find a way to make it happen. The key is to have a definite major purpose, a coveted goal, a burning desire, a passion. Napoleon said “I had learned, from years of experience with men, that when a man really desires a thing so deeply that he is willing to stake his entire future on a single turn of the wheel in order to get it, he is sure to win.” Consequently, I need to have a definite major purpose. I need to have something that I want so badly that I can taste it. For me, my burning desire is to have the financial freedom so I can travel, take pictures and write. I want the freedom to be able to do what I want to do. For the 1st time in a long time I feel the hope that my freedom is right around the corner. With Empower Network I know it will happen. My goal is to retire from my J-O-B on or before my next birthday. Will I make it happen? You bet I will.

Do you have a dream? A goal? A burning desire? A passion? Maybe, just maybe Empower Network is your ticket to fulfilling that dream. Napoleon said in his book, “Psychologists have correctly said that “when one is truly ready for a thing, it puts in its appearance.”

Do you think maybe it just has???

Check out my Empower Network site and see what you think.

Until next time,
Charyl
“mom8isme”

Who is Mom8isme?

So, who am I?  Decided you needed to know who you are reading about.  My name is Charyl Hann Armstrong.  I was born and grew up in San Diego, CA.  Graduated from San Diego High School in 1967.  See, I am close to retirement age.  It will be here before I know it.  Tho I am really planning on retiring from my J-O-B as soon as possible.  Now that I have started Empower Network I feel that is a real possibility.

After high school I attended San Diego State University, earning my BA in Accounting.  Passed the CPA exam and worked accounting jobs until I became a full time stay at home mom.

This is where the Mom 8 comes in.  Over the years I became Mom to 8 kids, 4 by birth and 4 by adoption.  After Dennis and I got married I added 4 step kids.  So really I have 12 kids ages 20 to 44.  I love being a mom.  BUT I really LOVE being a grandma.  At the moment we have 15 grandkids, ages 1 ½ to 17, and we aren’t even close to being finished. The picture above is a small fraction of the family at Thanksgiving this year.

Back to work.  I worked accounting jobs off and on over the years until I got involved in the mental health field.  Some of my adopted kids struggle with mental illness.  I got involved with NAMI (National Alliance for Mental Illness), am on the board and teach a few of their classes.  At the moment my J-O-B is in the Independent Living Field.  I am an IL Advocate for youth.  I attend a lot of IEP meetings advocating for the kids with disabilities to have all the modifications and accommodations they deserve.  It’s an OK job if a person has to work – but – I want my time back.  I want to have the freedom to do the things I want to on a daily basis.

Over the years I have been in Network Marketing.  Sold needlework, skin care and vitamins.  Nothing really jelled so quit.  Felt like I sucked at it.  I knew the model worked but just couldn’t get it to work for me.  This time everything feels different.  I finally have hope that this will work.  Good company, awesome comp plan – who can beat 100% commissions, and fantastic support.  I am going to make this work!!!

So what else would you want to know about me.  I love to travel, take pixs and write.  What better program than one that requires me to write a blog every day. 

Like I said before I love being a mom and grandma and one of the biggest reasons I want to retire from my J-O-B is so that I can be an active part in my grandkids lives.  Every day I am missing things in their lives.  Before I know it they will be grown and having families of their own.  They are only going to be young once.  Family is a huge priority for me. 

I don’t know where you are in your life right now but if you are like me and want a shot at freedom be sure to check out Empower Network.  It is what it says and people are making tons of money with it.  If you do the 8 core steps you can’t help but succeed.  Check it out – I am sure you will be impressed.

Check out Empower Network!!

Have an awesome day.

Charyl