People Pleaser Poison!!
If you just set out to be liked, you will be prepared to compromise on anything at any time - and you would achieve nothing.
-Margaret Thatcher
Are You a People Pleaser? I have been one for as long as I can remember. I am not sure when it started or why. Maybe it was my personality bent, or maybe childhood abuse. But for whatever reason it has been a thorn in my flesh. It has plagued me and crippled me for my whole life.
Recently I have been trying to figure out what it was that was my road block in life. I have thought of numerous things but nothing felt quite right. Was it fear of failure? No. Fear of criticism? Maybe, but still not quite right.
Then, yesterday my sponsor in Empower Network, Sam Crowley of Every Day is Saturday posted the above quote on his Facebook page. As soon as I read it I knew it was talking to me. I finally pinpointed what has kept me dead in the water. I am a people pleaser!!
I finally know what I have to work on and what I have to overcome. I can no longer be a people pleaser!!!
Knowing I am a People Pleaser is Not Enough
Knowing is not enough; we must apply.
Willing is not enough; we must do.
~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Knowing that I am a people pleaser is not enough. I must do something about it. As I have thought about it since yesterday, I have realized being a people pleaser has caused me to make bad “go along with the flow” decisions. My being a people pleaser had caused a lot of people to get hurt throughout my life.
If you want to know how sick being a people pleaser is – I went into a profession I didn’t like to please my mother. I married someone I didn’t love to please a religious leader. I have never, but once, had a back bone to stand for what I felt I wanted or needed to do.
It is Time to Break the People Pleaser Habit
"The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing."
—Walt Disney:American film producer, director,
animator, entrepreneur, and philanthropist
Being a people pleaser is going to be a hard habit to break! This is something I have been for 63 years. This feels like an addiction. But I know if I don’t break this habit I am dead in the water.
It takes 21 days to break a habit. This is a deep seeded habit. Today is April 9, 2013. For the next 21 days (the rest of the month) or longer, I am going to keep this at the front of my thinking. I am going to be conscious of the decisions I make and the things I say, and the actions I do. If I fall back into being a people pleaser, I will start the 21 days again, until I can go 21 days without slipping backward.
My desire is to have a thriving Empower Network Business. I know that being a people pleaser will destroy that goal. I can’t succeed at Empower Network or really, anything in life as long as I try to stay on neutral people pleaser ground.
Today is the 1st day of the rest of my Life
Today is the 1st day of the rest of my life. I WILL be a person who takes a stand. I WILL be a person who says what she means and means what she says. I WILL step out of the shadows and do the actions that a non people pleaser would do. I WILL succeed!!!!
If you struggle with being a people pleaser, you are not alone. Do you want to break the habit? If so, leave me a comment and we can go through this struggle together.
If you would like to know more about the Empower Network, business opportunity I mentioned about – just click on the link below. Add your email address, watch the video and I will be getting back with you shortly. You can guarantee that when I get back with you I won’t be a people pleaser but I will tell you like it is.
Have an awesome non people pleasing day,
Charyl aka Mom8isme
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